The last time I hosted a workshop, the session was recorded so that the attendees could access the material later. When I played the recording for myself, I was surprised to see how many examples I had. I could not deliberately miss this using the word filler, but I knew that to become a more effective presentation, I had to finish it with my public speaking.
And I’m not alone. At some point almost everyone has used fillers while speaking; This is a reality which is popular throughout history. According to the Oxford English Dictionary, for the time being, has been a part of the human race’s cloth for centuries. We come back in 1469, Hem, Hau, and Er were first shown in print in 1526, 1679 and 1862 respectively. All can be used before written transcripts. Umm also has its own version in every language. For example, in Russian, people use AH and French, uh.
But what causes us to use these fillers? Do they serve an important language function? Or does anxiety and nervousness play an important role? According to experts, this is a bit of both.
Joan Mathews, a public speaking coach from Oregon, says, “When we are talking to people, general concern makes us very uncomfortable with silence.” “In this case, fillers are our useless efforts to take care of everyone.” He gives an indication of the irony of this because the silence between the phrases is more encouraging for the audience than the Adam and Uhh.
In the experience of Matthews, the more accurate the chance to speak, the greater the filler we use. She says, “We think how many of us come in when we do not take very little or no time to prepare at the place.” “We are thinking because we speak and therefore, there is a need to buy time to find the right words.”
Colorado-based coaching coach Andy O’Connor, who has worked with countless Fortune 100 companies, says that it also influences those experienced speakers who are experienced speakers. “They go to a meeting or presentation and they try to wing it.” She says, do they say that they are saying uh or um because they do not know what they will say next.
George Lakoff, a special professor of cognitive science and linguistics at the University of California at Berkeley, says, Uh, uh, oh, ah says that there are words in English which have the practical meaning of communication. He said, “He has been studied in a very elaborate manner by linguists,” he cited many studies and said, citing many studies.
Practical includes social language skills that we use in our daily interactions with others, in which we say, how we say, our physical language, and on choosing a given situation involves choosing and changing our language. It is considered as a practical marker for planning, Um and Oh are two of these special markers. Some experts call yeh and um conversation managers and legitimate words. Even though they believe in using too many fillers, they may get distracted, they suggest that “by giving a sign signal delaying, a speaker prevents a silent difference in the conversation which can otherwise prove the confessor to be confused. ”
But many professional-speaking coaches suggest that silence is more powerful. In O’Conor’s opinion, the most influential speakers know how to do a full stop on something and then start the next sentence for the effect. She also says that silence can also be a great service for your audience because cognitively our brains always have some beats during the speech. “We need restrictions to digest and process information.”
According to O’Conor, in addition to practicing and being fully prepared, we can both do mental and physical to prevent crawling in our speech. The simplest technique that it uses with its customers, we imagine the punctuation because we talk. Imagine putting an invisible period at the end of your sentences while imagining. Imagine you can see periods or commas in your speech while speaking. “She says that it can be an immediate treatment for some people.
It also recommends three additional steps: Positive posing, smiling and positive people have to face any negative thoughts. He suggests Emmy Cuddy’s Wonder Woman Paus, where you stand with your hands on your hips before giving a speech or presentation. A social psychologist, Kuddi has found that the currency increases your testosterone and reduces your cortisol. This opens your chest too, so that you can breathe and speak better. Smiling your serotonin increases, which is a happy medicine for your brain. Together, there can be all the differences in the power generation and smiling world.
Mentally, O’Connor says three gremlins: imposter syndrome (or self-doubt), thinking that your presentation or speech is boring, and worry that listeners can judge you. He recommends mental mentality, “puts himself in this room, I have an interesting thing, and everybody in this room wants me to succeed,” and listening to it before giving a speech or presentation.
Matthew thinks that we spend a lot of time worrying about ums and uh and we do not spend enough time on other aspects of our public speaking.
“Many of us have been taught that ‘it is not what you say, that is how you call it’. Wrong! This is exactly what you say. “The technique is important, but the most important part of a great presentation is the message.
“Remember, this is not the way or the most effective way of making changes about public speaking. He says that changes need to see the time in front of others as a way to bring those changes, which they see Once a speaker is connected to the audience, why they are in front of the audience and what they want to achieve, development and distribution come more easily.