As a business owner and mother of two children, with a serious special need, I love the word adventure. This means that I have to decide every day to make a decision which I will find it difficult, and It can also be dangerous and I need all the mental and moral strength that I want to be firm.
Long ago I found myself suffering from a fierce headache like I had prepared to give a speech. That’s why I got a chair massage chair at the airport and the massage therapist paid a lot of money for some relief was unbelievable; She has shared with me that she is also a special need child, and we had a quick connection. While massage my neck, he told a lump behind my right ear. This lump has turned tumor in my salivary gland
I was undergoing surgery for six hours, and left it completely lame on the right side of my face. Nobody was sure whether it would be permanent or permanent. I could not stop smiling, nap or my right eye, and I had a speech obstruction, half a smile in my face and the other half seemed crazy.
To make matters worse, I should have another surgery to repair scratches on my cornea (because I can not close my eyes) before I can ensure radiation therapy that the tumor does not return! I had to wear an eye patch and I wanted to meet closely like a pirate
Every time I looked in the mirror, I cringed everywhere I went, I was focusing on how people see me; I have seen all that
In that summer, I was scheduled to go to India for a five-day speaking engagement, but my doctor told me to cancel the trip because the radiation would take its toll, and I would not be able to work. As a professional speaker for me, I saw my career goofy
But one day at a conference, meeting planner called me and asked me to talk about crushing the crisis. The irony is that they did not know that none of them had happened. When I explained everything with the paralysis of the tumor and face, she said, “This is a better message!”
That happened to me at that moment that courage did not mean that I was not scared-I was scared. Courage meant that I did it anyway.
My initial tendency was not to say I was about to start radiation and I was still recovering from the surgery. I certainly did not have to travel. I did not even want to see my pictures like my face, such as Show up to a few thousand viewers
As I started writing an email while reducing engagement, though, I was overwhelmed by sadness. I just sat there and cried. Everything happened in part due to what happened, but not even with pure fear. After removing my tears, I decided that I could not tell other people to find my courage, if I did not want to search my own. That happened to me at that moment that courage did not mean that I was not scared-I was scared. Courage meant that I did it anyway.
So I picked up the phone and called the event planner. I explained that physically, I was not really able to travel so far, so I asked if he would be ready to make me a video. He was fascinated by this idea and told me that he thought that I was brave.
Being courageous is not difficult when you are happy and everything is laughing. When you are tired, emotional, angry, and life is far away from the plan you have made, so that your courage is hard to get. Courage is how we choose to work during these times
Here are three lessons I have learned to help you think and act boldly:
- Courage makes the difference The main difference between those who act boldly and who get stuck, according to them, how we see fear is the absence of courage, fear is not working, fears and working through inconvenience. Courage means that you allow the challenge and the adversity to be a catalyst so that you help in facing whatever you throws in life.
- Courage is unparalleled for each of us, the courage is highly personal for each person, so do not compare your pain and fear to others’ experiences. Is a person scary and can be exhilarating for the next, we see things differently and we experience different types of courage. Better or worse than any other I know those who are fearless when talking about travel or sports, but they refuse to fall in love because they can hurt. When it comes to courage, then there is no shape.
- There are many different ways of practicing courage: To take care of a disabled family member you must have the courage to face the eternal series of daily challenges. To be a successful business owner, you must be bold and calculate the risk accordingly. To be a lover friend, parent or spouse, you must be brave to forgive.
I have identified at least seven different courage that you are already doing a lot of practice in this, even you can not think about it:
- Intuitive courage, such as helping others or choosing injustice.
- Creative adventure, including changing the bold ideas in reality
- Physical courage, such as discipline and training for building your strengths and fitness.
- Regardless of the moral courage, despite doing the right thing, make sure that your words and actions match your principles, and stand up for those who can not stand for themselves
- Emotional courage, such as apologizing and forgiving others, opening your feelings for both positive and negative, and looking for help, feedback, guidance, coaching or medical.
- Intellectual courage involves asking questions on your thinking, understanding mistakes, explaining understanding and truth, and working carefully with difficult situations.
- Social patience, such as expressing your thoughts with respect, even if it is not popular for doing so, and is also feeling comfortable in your skin at the risk of social rejection.
What kind of courage do you come across easily? Which are more difficult? And in what circumstances do you face, what obstacles do you obstruct from behaving with guts? Take a few minutes and write down the answers to these questions when you recognize how brave you are and where you struggle, then you can pick up those steps that you need to think and behave boldly.