He said, “I can not join my staff.” They come to me and complain. I tell them what to do – and they still will not do this. ”
He did not need to describe disappointment for me; I could hear him in the voice of his voice; I could see him the way his jaw had bowed his words, as he kept his patience.
The woman sitting near me gave some good advice. I sat back and listened, focused on those words which was not being said. I had seen this problem before: Only a few years ago, I was talking to both disappointed women and provided stacked pieces of advice, hopefully the next thing I would say was the right solution. If it was not so, that was also right, because I liked the sound of my voice too.
When the conversation got quiet, I asked a disappointed woman if she wanted some advice, because when we ask that advice is appreciated, the receiver automatically understands whether she is receptive in that moment.
If he was not ready for my advice, then hopefully he would say that, but in this case, he said that he was. That’s why I explained it to three different types of listening levels.
As an inactive listener, you are aware of the conversation going on around you, but you are not fully involved in the speaker. In these conversations, you, the listener, are adequate to respond and add your own comment. Maybe you are multitasking or maybe your brain focuses on other things, while the conversation is going on, but you are not fully present at the moment. So this conversation, like most conversations, can not go past surface level.
As an active listener, you are being engaged in the speaker, and you will sometimes repeat your language to prove your understanding or ask open-ended questions that will continue the conversation. Between you and the speaker, the eye contact is usually done and some matching of body language (such as the head tilt, the smiling and the place of the hand), but sometimes your thinking process will be your next before listening to the previous question. The question goes down. You are not completely busy at this moment.
Listen to global
As a global listener, you and the conversation are focused on the speaker. You, the listener, are fully present- the eye contact is strong and body language is synchronized. To allow the conversation to reflect a moment and complete their thought process, there are more uses of punctuation during the flow of the conversation even if you are not talking in person, Feel emotional shifts in the form, the words mentioned and paused will dance their way through the conversation. You are now fully engaged in the moment
You can increase your skills in the listener by becoming more conscious about concentrating on the outside of the conversation. When you think of something other than the subject in your hand, then breathe in for a moment and bring your focus back. As you increase your awareness, you can see the language of your natural body and start meeting with the speaker.
As your hearing begins to improve, the conversation will be deep; more involved; And sometimes even in length, because before using the question of using appropriate pauses, the speaker allows to complete the entire ideas, talk more about speaking with the speaker, much lower and more about the audience There will be more questions
You have heard this before: “If a tree falls in the forest and no one wants to hear it, is it still making sound?” For many people, if they do not think so, they can think that this is worth to say too.
Very much like the story
It is likely that women’s staff did not really get their advice because they had turned away from the advice, in fact, they were probably not receptive to the advice in the first place (she never asked) – therefore, not surprisingly, some Not even changed, but once the woman realized that she was demanding a listening ear, she was speaking less and listening more. Focus has shifted itself from his employees, and now instead of giving orders, creates creativity, they talk through making solutions for themselves – as he listens intently