Try these positive actions to lift your mood and increase your self-confidence, increase your will and deepen your relationships.
Those who see half of the glass are definitely happy compared to the pessimistic of the world, and it is appropriate to learn to think positively. However, you think that changing the way it can be surprisingly difficult, especially when it is difficult to walk, what if there is a way – a shortcut or hack – on which you feel positive, when you blues Do not shake?
Quick and effective exercises can make you feel happy, avoid worry, increase your will, deepen relationships, and boost self confidence.
A few years ago, I was told about a simple idea that has been validated in hundreds of experiments and has given rise to quick and effective exercises that make you feel happy, avoid worry, increase your will, deepen relationships And can help boost confidence. Perhaps the most amazing thing is that it is not included in your view of trying to change it.
This idea was proposed at the turn of the 20th century and for the work of Victorian philosopher William James, working at Harvard University, James proposed a revolutionary new theory about the link between thinking and behavior. According to traditional knowledge, because of your thoughts and feelings, you behave in a certain way. Being happy makes you smile, and feeling depressed makes you frown, James wonders whether the exact opposite can also be true, that is how you can feel how you behave.
According to James & # 39; s theory, you should be happy to force your face into smile, and forgetting should make you feel unhappy. James realized that if his theory was right, then people should be able to make any sense that they were just wanted by “acting”, they were experiencing that feeling. Although the potential power of his idea clearly enabled James (he is often referred to as “bottled electricity”), it was a year ahead of his time and paid very little attention to his fellow academics.
At the end of the 1960s, Rochester University psychologist James Leard stumbled on James’s theory and decided to test it. Layard knew that he could not just smile at people and report them, because they could guess what the experiment was about and play together.
To overcome the problem, Layard advertised for volunteers to participate in a study on the electrical activity of facial muscles. When the volunteers reached the laboratory, the layers placed electrodes between their eyebrows and the corners of their mouths. The electrodes were fake, but the clever cover story enabled Harrard with caution to smile or frown the faces of his volunteers.
In order to make a frown, volunteers were asked to pull two electrodes together between their eyebrows. For a happy expression, they were asked to pull the electrode back to the corners of their mouths. After engaging his face in the required faces, the participants were asked how they felt. The results were remarkable. In fact, predicted by James, volunteers felt happy when they forced their faces to be smiling and sad, when they were frowning.
Curious about this remarkable discovery, other scientists began to make their own versions for the illusory use of the Layer. Instead of repeatedly duplicate electrodes on people’s faces, each laboratory produced its own version of the study.
Encouraging the photographers to encourage people to say this, “Paneer” researchers from the University of Michigan asked volunteers to repeatedly make “EE” sound (as easy), so that their faces To smile, or “EU” (in Yule form) to create the expression closer to hatred. Similarly, researchers in Germany were investigating how to teach the lame people under the neck, and volunteers were asked to support pencil horizontally between their teeth (thus compelling their face smiling ) Or pencil between their lips (thus drag them) in a frown face)
From time to time, the result showed that James’s theory was correct, with volunteers, who repeatedly translated pencils between “E” or their teeth, they were suddenly feeling very happy. In short, “As you were experiencing a certain feeling, the emotions arise in the same way.
Other researchers have found out whether “as the” principle also works in other areas of everyday life. The results show that very few changes in your actions can have a fast and long-term impact on your happiness, inspiration, willpower, creativity and personality. So why not adopt more positive actions in your life?
Here are 10 positive verbs to try:
1. feeling happy
There is more to lift your mood than putting your face in a brief, unfounded smile, which ends in the blink of an eye. Instead:
Relax muscles in your forehead and cheeks, and leave your mouth slightly open.
Tie the muscles near the corners of your mouth, pull them back towards your ears. Smile as much as possible and increase your muscle muscles slightly upwards. Hold the resulting expression for approximately 20 seconds
For example, try to include this mood-bright exercise in your daily routine, for example, smile before answering the telephone or setting a reminder on your computer.
2. Getting started
Have you had to struggle to get a troubled option? Ziuping Lee, a researcher at the National University of Singapore Business School, asked every participant to write about a recent decision, in which he regretted. Lee then asked some participants to seal their remorse in an envelope. Those who do this feel much better about their previous decision, although they were only physically working on symbolic closing, but their work helped them till the psychological shutdown.
Next time you want a customer to suffer or have a bad business decision, write a brief description of what happened to a piece of paper, put a paper in an envelope, and kiss the last goodbye. And if you really want to have fun, then come for matches and turn your envelope into a heap of ashes.
3. Power of secrecy
More couples have to know each other, as they disclose personal information. Psychologist Arthur Arnon with the State University of New York at Stony Brook thought that if two people asked to disclose personal information (and such acting “as they were” the more closely) they would be particularly close to them. Arnon joined with strangers, gave them a group of 36 questions, allowing them to open their private aspects of life faster and then Hen rated that they went the prophecy How do you feel about each other, the question has intimacy and foster a sense of charm. When using this technique to deepen your relationship with colleagues, family members or friends, take one step at a time and make sure that you are comfortable with the conversation.
Here are 10 sample questions using Aron:
Looking at someone’s choice in the world, which you want as a dinner guest?
would you like to be famous? in what way?
Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
What would be a whole day for you?
When did you finally sing to yourself? to someone else?
If you were living up to the age of 90 and could have kept the mind or body of the age of 30 for the last 60 years of your life, what do you want?
What is your most precious memory?
What is your most awesome memory?
What do you feel most grateful in your life?
If you can change anything about the way you were raised, what will happen?
4. Pull Me-Push You
If you are exercising, try to behave as if you do not like unhealthy food. Research shows that to remove any object from you (and behaving as if you do not like it) makes you dislike the object while dragging it towards you (behave while you like it) You feel more positive about it. The next time you are faced with a plate of sweet or fried breakfast, then just push the plate away from you and feel the temptation faded.
On the contrary, if you are in a sale and you want potential customers to feel more positive about a product, then try to put them in front of a table and encourage them to slide it closer.
5. Muscle spell
People who are highly motivated often bother their muscles because they are ready to spring in action. But researched by Iris Hung, the marketing associate of the National University of Singapore’s marketing, has shown that the opposite is also true – you can strengthen your will power by tightening your muscles. The next time you feel that your will is getting away, for example, by making a fist, sharing your fish, pressing your thumb and first finger together, or holding a pen in your hand.
Similarly, if you want to be firm with something, then try to cross your arms. Ron Friedman, founder of Social Psychologist and Kindle 80, told people that dealing with their arms with difficult diagrams or resting on their thighs. By folding your arms, people were acting like this, as they used to live continuously, and they tried to solve the puzzle almost twice, until their thighs were not touched.
6. Breaking Habits
You can help bypassing undesired habits while behaving as if you are someone who is not connected regularly. In the UK, psychologist Ben Fletcher and Karen Pine did research from the University of Hertfordshire in which people tried to lose weight, they were asked to adopt a more flexible approach to life (for example, to stop watching television for a day Being asked for or traveling to use different routes) These small changes try to help people break their bad patterns and try to undo the unwanted habits, such as you are a flexible person and complete one of the following:
Try an unusual form of food
Visit a new art gallery or museum
Go to a shop you have never seen
Take the time to watch a movie that you do not think you’ll enjoy
7. How to interact
The chairs you sit in, they affect your behavior, which, in turn, do you feel. In a study, Joshua Ackerman, an assistant professor of marketing at the MIT Sloan School of Management, began to take volunteers into hard chairs or soft-cushioned chairs while playing a role to play a new car with strangers. Rigid chairs were sitting rigid, while people sitting in soft chairs feel comfortable – and sure enough, their behavior was quite different. Those hard-chairs were more rude in their conversations and demanded high value for the car
Hard furniture makes difficult attitudes, which underscores the importance of making soft goods in your home and office (except when you need to become a bad police).
8. The power of heating
“As the theory predicts, hot people should feel them more favorable.
From an early age, we feel warmth with safety and security (hugs and open fire), and coldness (“getting cold shoulder” and “snowy glance” seems) with the dishonesty. “As the theory predicts, hot people should feel them more favorable. Research done by Colorado psychiatrist Lawrence Williams suggested that this is really the case. Williams entrusts volunteers as a hot cup of coffee or cold drink, asking them to read brief descriptions of a stranger, and then to tell them the strangest rate of strangers. Volunteers, who had been hot with coffee, thought that strangers seemed very interesting than those who used to catch Iced drinks.
If you are trying to befriend someone, leave the frozen cocktail in an air-conditioned bar and in turn, choose to thwart tea in front of a thunderbolt fire.
9. All together now
Do you want to gather together a group and believe in the same reason? Meet them to work in one voice Assistant Professor Scott Wiltermouth from the University of Southern California gathered three groups of volunteers. Some groups were asked to walk normally in the university campus, while others were made in a small army and asked to move forward in the same direction in the same way. In the second part of the study, groups were asked to listen to a national anthem, and others were asked to sing along and to go to the music over time. Then in each group the people were asked to play a board game in which they could choose to help or interrupt each other. People who were walking in sync and used to sing in unison together quickly, and they had a lot of potential to help each other during the game.
People who are bonded together, they often work together. Similarly, acting in uniting involves working with people.
10. Presenting power
A study conducted at Columbia University showed that when people “make power,” they feel more confident, high levels of testosterone (a chemical associated with dominance) and lower levels of cortisol (a chemical associated with stress) ) is.
So if you sit down, lean back, look and fold your fingers in front of your head. If you are standing, keep your feet flat on the floor and move your shoulders back and your chest forward.
Or, if you do not have time to kill powerful forces, then just make a fist. University of Oslo psychologist Thomas Schabbert told a group of men how confident they are, then they make their hand in a hand for a few seconds, and then change their self-confidence again. The body of the volunteers influenced their brains, enjoyed a significant increase in self confidence with men because they had spent a few moments making fists.